As a competitive swimmer for nearly half my life, feeling uncomfortable was normal. The uncomfortable feeling both physically & emotionally was just a given. It meant you were pushing yourself to increase your strength, improve speed & skill; therefore, swim faster. Your muscles ached, joints felt fatigued & there were moments of mental exhaustion as well. But, I knew in the end, all that extra effort & sacrifice was worth it! I was pushing myself to achieve great goals. I was pushing myself to reach a higher level of success.
These lessons learned through sports can be easily applied to all aspects in life. Those all-night study sessions to fully prepare for exams in college, doing the extra tasks or staying late in the office to complete work obligations or taking the initiative to learn a new skill set are positive actions to become the best version of YOU! Taking those conscious, yet necessary steps to do the extra work results in emotional improvement. It may not be something your loved ones or friends see physically, but they will most certainly notice something “different” about you.
This is exactly the journey Sherry of Petite over 40 & I are taking! We have made the conscious decision to open ourselves for improvement. We are taking steps to expand who we are. We are striving to be better within ourselves. Where we want to end up is unknown at this time, but we are ready for the challenge! Maybe there should never be an end in sight…..
So many people have said to me in the past, if you feel complacent or comfortable, you aren’t improving; you’re stagnant. When you feel like you know it all, or feel on top of your game with nothing else to learn, that’s when you stop learning. In fact, you move backwards. If you ask the most successful people (I certainly don’t just mean the richest people), I’m sure they would tell you they are always learning new things, pushing their boundaries & broaden their horizons.
So for this month’s looks, Sherry thought it would be fun to go with an Oscar theme to coincide with the Oscars. She steered toward Old Hollywood Glamour as she had a particular dress that she needed to face head on, in fact, she mentioned as we were preparing “…I have been afraid how I might look in it. This will force me to try it one more time and (hopefully) overcome my fear of it.” I opted for Modern Hollywood Glamour (or at least my version of it). Since I was limited in clothing options down here in Florida & sticking to my guns with this 3-month, no-purchase journey, I wasn’t sure if I would be able to fulfill the task.
My mouth dropped in awe when I had the first peek at this photo! If this isn’t classic elegance, then I don’t know what is! I think the silhouette of this black dress glides over her curves just perfectly. I love the elegant drapery around the neckline of this dress. Sherry’s shimmery gold pumps take this look to a modern level & finishing your look off with the ever so chic red lip is so sophisticated & glamorous.
Sherry confessed she had a real deep struggle shooting this dress & challenge with this experience. There was such an emotional feeling towards this dress. She knew in her heart it was just a piece of fabric, but there was something about this dress that tugged deep within her psyche & knowing it was time to come to the tough decision that it no longer worked for her. It broke my heart to read her thoughts & I was so bummed she felt so drained with this emotional 20-year relationship with this dress. In fact, shame on that dress for making Sherry feel this way! If that dress was human & I ever ran into that dress, I’d have a good mind to give that dress a verbal lashing. But, I can appreciate the emotional feeling you can have towards a garment or piece of jewelry especially if it signifies a special/specific moment in life or if it was handed down from a loved one.
She definitely hides those emotions very well & looks so natural, chic & effortless to me.
You must head over to read her full blog post….. so incredibly thought provoking.
I went with the short look again as my ultimate challenge. This was what I wanted to wear….
But, this was what I decided, so I would push myself in hopes of overcoming how self-conscious I felt.
This look was the farthest from my most nature self. I felt like I was trying to dress like one of those young Hollywood “it” kids. You know the British term, “mutton dressed as lamb”. Was I trying too hard to dress in a decade I have seriously surpassed? With my blog, I’m trying to demonstrate that the old rules of fashion need to stop. Why can’t a 40-something woman wear a short skirt or dress? But, for some reason, I feel like that rule can’t apply to me… why? Thank goodness this dress had long, billowy sleeves & a looser fit as there would have been no way I would have put this on in public if it were the slightest bit more snug or sleeveless. And seriously people, how much sparkle do I really wear? … Uhhhh, like none! After trying it on in the dressing room, I shocked myself when this clearance priced dress (might I add, I purchased this for like 15 bucks) ended up at the cash register. But, the styling ideas I had in my head were the poplar opposite of what you see today. I’m also not a big jewelry girl, so why purchase this statement necklace? CLEARANCE! IMPULSE BUY! Anyway, it has been living in the darkness in the bottom of my jewelry box, so it was high time to get this out & experiment with it. The studded heels are the only confident piece to this look. I’ve had them years & wear them periodically & always feel so comfy in them. Maybe it’s the thick straps & extra buckles that give me a bold confidence when walking.
Even painted my toes for this shoot, something I rarely do!
Is it ok to pair a sparkly necklace with a sparkly dress? Is that just too much sparkle? Umm….
Whewww, I think we are emotionally spent, but this is so worth the challenge! What challenge do you need to face & how do you plan to tackle this issue? Tell us how you would push your boundaries to broaden your horizons.
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