I feel more curious now than ever before in my life.
Curious about so much! Where will life take me? Where will my husband’s company be in 10 years? Where will WE be in 10 years? What will my career be? Will I go back to school? Will I be working with animals as a career? Will I be in Massachusetts or in Florida full-time? Will we have enough savings for retirement? Will I still be blogging? Will there still be blogging PERIOD? Among these thoughts, I’m also curious about my style, how I even tapped into this ever-expanding, ever-evolving world of clothing, accessories & shoes. And, more specifically why & how did I get so obsessed with sneakers?
My questions become more specific the more I explore the world of fashion, pour over style magazines, scroll through Instagram photos of fashionistas sharing their #styleinspo. I even ask myself, how did we succumb to these abbreviated words that hopefully, portray us as cool & in-the-know with other fashionistas out there. As you may have noticed, I’m just letting my brain run free … hope my fingers keep up!!!
I’m curious why we are so taken when we view someone else in an outfit that is so out of our realm. We are quick to compliment her with high praise, but in a swift second, say to ourselves, “It looks so amazing on her, but I could never wear that!” Why don’t we allow ourselves the freedom to try “that look” or “this look”? What is it in our psyche that holds us back from trying something new? Why do we feel so scared? Com’n, it’s only clothes! They won’t set you on fire!
Specifically, I’m curious about glamorous looks. I’m in awe & mesmerized with the classification of glamorous. When I think of a glamorous look, it is something only worn for that once-in-a-lifetime, very special occasion. The 5-Star cruise I will never be able to afford, the posh 500-dollar plated fundraiser that I will never get invited to in a million years, an awards show…. walking the red carpet where security will only shoosh me off when I get busted for sneaking on to try & pose with the elite! When I think of a glamorous woman, they seem untouchable like a Herculean Goddess. My first encounter of a glamorous girl was Cindy Nelson in high school. She came to class every day dressed to the nines, looking so elegant & every detail was perfect down her nail color. She floated down the hallway like a vision of complete gorgeousness letting us know this how it is done. (Btw, she was one of the nicest people in school, too!).
I think of glamorous with the likes of billionaire heiresses, Hollywood stars & supermodels. But, there is one gal who I actually know on Instagram, that can 100% be classified as glamorous. She is Mary of www.curlybyrdiechirps.com. I’m baffled how she pulls off glamorous looks so effortlessly with every post she shares. And, she does it on a budget to boot.
This is exactly what I’m talking about. I can admire someone’s outfit, comment on how they pull off this look so effortlessly, but automatically shut off all thoughts that I could wear this look with any sort of success.
I’m so comforted knowing I share this journey with Sherry as we are struggling with much of the same issues when it comes to how confident we feel with our style choices outside of our comfort zone. Why do we feel compelled to “stay in our lane”? What is our fear? As we challenge ourselves through fashion, our goal is to grow as individuals with our confidence & self-expression. Here we go heading into deep, undiscovered territory.
This is my attempt at tackling full on ladylike & glamorous.
A dear friend let me borrow this vibrant printed jacket & she also gave me this Forever 21 adorable nautical jumpsuit. I fell in love with each piece when I saw them on the hanger. The feeling dwindle when I put the clothes on! But, I really wanted to try something new. It’s not her fault as my friend has style for days & she knows how to have fun with color & the details with all of her outfits.
Here is a photo of Jessica & I on a fancy night out with our hubbys!
The look just didn’t come together as I wished & I felt so uncomfortable like I was trying to be something I wasn’t. I was feeling like such a fake. If I walked into a room full of people with this outfit, I would be utterly self-conscious. I feel like everyone would be saying, “ohhhhh, looks like someone’s trying too hard.”
What I didn’t like:
- Once I got in the sun, I realized my colors didn’t match exactly.
- I felt fat.
- The crotch was riding up my bum bum.
- I didn’t like how lumpy my pockets looked.
What I liked & learned:
- For one, stop with the negativity. Nothing is perfect.
- At least I tried!
- I do love my earrings.
- I love my heels.
- I love the backdrop.
- I DO love the individual pieces, just not together.
It is hard to walk that fine line of elegant & casual; you are either one of the other. Sherry put together this look with such ease & she is looking all sorts of Parisian chic. This is a textbook version of how to showcase both together. Absolutely love how she has elevated this look with vibrant floral print in her top & adding her beautiful baby blue scarf. She keeps her look so easy with her fun white sneakers. I think Sherry nailed this look & she should be walking right through to first class on her flight.
Sharing this journey with Sherry has been the biggest blessing & happy we are on roller coaster ride together. She has encouraged me to take risks & feel confident doing it. She sees things in me I never thought existed. So, curious & looking forward where this road will take us!
I already have creative ideas to mix it up for next time. I will still try for a glamorous look … I won’t give up!
To let you in on a little secret, as soon as we shot this look, I took off the heels, jacket & slipped on what I know best…sneakers! I immediately felt at ease as I comfortably rode my bike into town to our favorite coffee shop. Wish I would have shared a photo, maybe in a future blog post…..
Ohhh & the crotch was still riding up my bum bum, but I didn’t care, I was back “in my lane”. Hehehehehe!